One thing everyone can agree on: We’re all in transitions these days. I spent the last few years trying to figure out how to navigate these times better. I crisscrossed the country, collecting hundreds of life stories of Americans of all ages, all walks of life, and in all fifty states. People who lost homes, lost loved ones; changed careers, changed genders; got out of cults; got out of bad marriages.

I then spent a year coding these stories for fifty-seven variables, from high point to low point, from what emotions people struggled most with in times of change to what advice from friends was most helpful.

I called it The Life Story Project.